There are so many different ideas
that can be used to keep my marriage affair free. I decided to get my husband
involved with me on this assignment and asked for his opinions on what we can
do to keep our marriage free of affairs. It is very important to us that we
keep our marriage strong and intact, no matter what, and we decided that we
would go above and beyond in maintaining a lasting healthy marriage. Our
marriage is one that lasts forever, and for eternity; where we are healthy,
physically, spiritually, and emotionally. This is what we value in our
marriage, and it is also something that I value personally in protecting my
marriage and my future family.
The first plan of action that I feel
would be necessary in making sure that everything is stable, would be to openly
share “who” we are working with in our career jobs. For instance, in my
husband’s future career as a businessman it can be a little frightening at
times, since more and more women are in the field of business. When it comes
time for him to be in his career, I have decided that he should tell me the
women that are in his office and that if I have my career job as well, that I
will make sure to openly discuss the men that are located where I would be working.
I believe that this sense of “openness” will be able to create an
atmosphere where we can share our feelings that are present, and events that
are happening within the workforce, instead of having to hide them, or keep
them enclosed within ourselves. I want our communication to stay as effective
as it is now. I know that this first step will help keep things in perspective
and when each of us decides to visit the other at work, it prevents no
surprises popping up when there are a bunch of women at the office and I was
not expecting that to be the case. This is such a vital form of communication
and my husband and I are going to strive to keep up with the ways in which we
communicate and are open to one another; making it strong now, which will make
it even stronger in the future.
The second form of action that I will be taking in marriage to
keep it “affair-proof,” is active listening. I want to make sure that my
husband and I are actively listening to one another when we are communicating
and making sure that we each are listening to the important things that are
being shared. I don’t want anything to get taken out of context or
misunderstood from a poor lack of listening. I think that often times many
couples try talking to each other and things can get blown out of proportion
and taking the wrong way between a husband and wife. I do not want that to be
the case for my spouse and I. I want us to be on the same page all the time and
making sure that we are hearing and also listening when we are talking about
our days at work. This will help is providing a plan of making us stable in our
relationship, and then blessing our marriage.
The final form of action that will be used for our plan, is
seeking first to understand then to be understood. I want to always be
committed to my husband. I can do that through showing him that I respect,
honor, and value him (not only for his priesthood duties), but also for being
the sole provider in our family. He duty of providing, presiding, and
protecting is the role that he carries within our family. I need to make sure
that he knows how much I am appreciative for all that he is doing. So often, it
is easy for me to let this slip up in my day-to-day life. I get caught up in
everything else that I am doing, that by the end of the day I have forgotten to
thank my husband, or tell him I love him, just those simple forms of
appreciation can show your commitment to your spouse. Appreciation is how I
need to show my commitment and let my husband know that I respect him. When men
are able to feel this from their spouses it keeps the love within their
marriage stronger, because both parties are striving towards an equal goal.
This is what we are going to strive for within our own marriage to keep it
“affair-proof.”
By each of us truly trying to seek first to understand one
another, we will be able to know what the other individual needs (in terms of
anything). It keeps the bonds closely knitted together and never loosened. We
don’t want to be understood in life, we want to understand. This form of
healthy relationship binding will keep our marriage intact, and free of
affairs, I know that without a doubt. I value my marriage, and what it means
for me now, in the future, and after this life. It is one that is eternal, and
lasts forever. I can not let it slip between fingers, I want to have my family
bound by love, seeking for growth each and every day from these three
principles of keeping our marriage affair free.
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