Building a secure Foundation

      Building a stable and secure ground for homes is very important. The most critical factor is the ground you are going to lay down to build your foundation. I like to compare this to preparing within ourselves to be that type of person you want to marry one day. If you aren’t happy with the traits others have, maybe it’s also fair to say that you can change yourself too?  Just like every home needs a foundation, marriages need to have base foundations as well. There is no such thing has a secure marriage without your own personal efforts put into all that you want for the future and for marriage; preparation is definitely a key principle. As the ground is preparing for the foundation they dig. This principle should be applied to marriage preparation. As we dig deep within ourselves we are able to fully understand all the layers that make us who we are individually. The deeper we dig the more we are willing to change.

            Next, are the cornerstones of the foundation. Once the ground is prepared the cornerstones can be set in place to lay the foundation. There are important factors to remember when laying the cornerstones in place. They have to be evenly distributed around the foundation, (which will hold up the building or house) otherwise it will be uneven and tipping or lopsided as a result. The even cornerstones make the foundation flat and provide support to the building to keep it strong. You need support so it doesn’t collapse and fall to the ground. These cornerstones help keep a marriage strong, secure, and lasting forever. The only way to achieve a sturdy foundation is to make sure that cornerstones support the foundation; cornerstones in marriage help to keep them eternal and on the path to happiness. When marriages have principles, I like to think that the cornerstones represent those principles that are in place on the foundation. Strong marriages have a solid base.

            The final key components are the blocks, bricks, or concrete, which will be placed on top of the cornerstones to make the final layer to the overall foundation. In a marriage it is important to find those components that are important to each of you individually and collectively as a couple. These can be principles of loyalty, forgiveness, and sacrifice. If someone in the relationship is not willing to sacrifice their own cares for the well being of the one they love, then there is no point to having a foundation, or even a balanced one for that matter. It is so important to be the change you wish to see in others. For example, if I am not willing to put aside my own wants, then it makes it really difficult for my husband to have communication toward me, and it even starts to lack a little bit more than normal. I have come to understand that by making conscious efforts to change myself that it has made my marriage that much happier as a result.  My husband and I made our own cornerstone for the foundation of our marriage. This is what we want to value and want to cherish most of all as a result from a foundational marriage: “We believe that with God, all things are possible and that if you want to be different, be good - very few choose to be good. Gratitude turns what we have into enough. We know that our life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful, and that no matter what comes our way, we will have peace above all costs.” We developed this early on, and it has been a source to lean on when rocky or unbalanced times come up, trying to shake our marriage and our foundation. As long as we are working together with the same goals, toward the same destination, I know that our foundation will always be stable and never wavering.